ParentsUncut Pod
This is a Podcast surrounding the adventure, struggle, beauty and intricacies of new parenthood. Hosted by three parents, totally 10 kids in together, they go through their mazes and phases of parenting styles, parenting norms, modern day parents, their trials and tribulations whilst keeping it raw and unfiltered. Thanking you for joining us on this journey and we hope we can bring some value to new parents, old parents and those thinking of becoming parents
ParentsUncut Pod
Misadventures in Parenting: Candid Tales of Parenthood, Purpose, and Mental Health
Have you ever found yourself in a parenting predicament that's both comical and a smidge terrifying? We've all been there, and today, I'm inviting you to chuckle and cringe with us as we share tales of when our children stumbled upon things that definitely weren't meant for them—think edibles disguising as innocent candy. Plus, we'll dive into the curious case of our co-host Jackie's unusual immunity to online fandom's negative spotlight, and we're eager for you to join the conversation!
Navigating the delicate waltz of family life and personal dreams, we open up about how our own upbringing has shaped the parents we've become and how we juggle the joyous chaos of raising kids while chasing our own goals. We peel back the layers of co-parenting, the sacrifices we've made for our passions, and the powerful influence these dynamics have on our children's futures. It's a candid look at the real dance of parenting—a mix of missteps, grace, and everything in between.
Wrapping up, we get real about mental health, shaking loose the stigma and embracing our vulnerabilities. From the interwoven threads of faith to the pressures of projecting perfection in the age of social media, we delve into the importance of self-care and the strength found in open dialogue about our struggles, including postpartum depression and anxiety. We're passionate about fostering a community where honesty prevails, and we can support each other through the highs and lows of life and parenthood.
Thank you for being here, thank you for your time and energy. We hope that we can ALL build this incredible community for parents by parents with parents.
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Speaker 2:So guys question, Since our fans are fans.
Speaker 1:You're the only one with fans, man. I got haters talking about my forehead left and right. No one talks about Jackie, for some reason.
Speaker 2:Wow, since our one talks about Jackie. Yeah, because she is behind the fake pageant, you know.
Speaker 3:We've come to that conclusion. You know I'm going to get the fucking biggest haters. They're going to be like what they going to say about you.
Speaker 2:Oh, look at her, she's so cute, she looks so young.
Speaker 1:She sounds like the nanny.
Speaker 2:You sound like haters, so for our followers, fans, subscribers, you guys have to really. Which is my camera? That's my camera.
Speaker 1:Engage.
Speaker 2:You guys really have to engage with our posts so that we can talk about things to keep you entertained.
Speaker 3:I'll talk about you guys. We can talk about you, since we posted.
Speaker 2:Tell us your crazy, crazy, his parenting story. We didn't get much feedback. What's your craziest parenting story?
Speaker 1:Damn.
Speaker 2:Oh, because I got one. Ok, yeah, you go first. You're talking, I should be getting back. I always have the crazy stories.
Speaker 1:Dad's got cool stories, mom's got crazy.
Speaker 2:No, think about it while I speak. Ok, so you could tell me out a little bit, all right. So I had purchased a bag of the watermelon slices, edibles, right, and they were, I ate a pack. And then I had another one and I had it in my make of vanity and I didn't think the kids were going to go in there. So all of a sudden I'm at work, in a meeting. You know my job is very like out-demanding. So I'm in a meeting and I'm seeing my phone. I'm getting calls from Katie text messages I'm not answering. So then I look real quick and she's like mom, can I eat these? And it was a picture of the gummies.
Speaker 1:Thank God she sent the pic.
Speaker 2:Oh my Lord Jesus, I almost freaking threw up right there. I was like I stepped out and I called her because it was like 10 minutes later and I'm like, oh my God, did it answer? Did she eat it? I'm thinking, oh my God, hi kid, and they wouldn't eat one, they'll eat the whole freaking bag. I'm like they're going to take me to jail, they're going to take my kids away. What's up? I go to the bathroom like Katie, did you eat it? Did you eat it? She's like no. I was like do not eat that. Put it there. Don't look through my stuff.
Speaker 1:They're stale.
Speaker 2:I was like that's my medicine. I was like what the hell is medicine? But the fear that I had in that moment, I said uh-uh. So now.
Speaker 1:I didn't know what the toys next time.
Speaker 2:What's this oh?
Speaker 3:This thing vibrates. It's sealed Johnny. No, no, no.
Speaker 1:The electric slide.
Speaker 3:I go. One time Mike was having a difficult time with some stuff, Anyway. So I go to the smoke shop. It was like a bunch of CBD stuff. I get the Apple Ring CBD gummies Think they were only CBD. I had the jar on my nightstand. Had it opened them? Had not opened them. I don't have a problem sleeping.
Speaker 1:We know you dream about your bed the moment you wake up, right.
Speaker 3:Exactly Love my bed. We have a great relationship. So I go and I'm like I had grabbed it, that she was missing half of the jar. And then I'm like yo, I missed it. I've been sleeping. I've been sleeping for two days. Yesterday he fell asleep. I woke up in the morning. He been eating the candies. He was fucking eating them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, at least he's sleeping deep. Thank God it was on. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:I would have had him. I was like, did you eat these? And he was like and I was like, did you eat these, did you eat these? And he was like, yeah, this is drugs. Say no to drugs. You could have killed yourself. No, that you're gonna kill yourself. And then I'm scaring him, right. I'm like don't you ever, ever, come in my room and take anything out of anywhere and just eat it? Yeah, that's simply the last time I was like you could have died. I was trying to scare him. You don't know.
Speaker 1:I don't have any good stories, then I haven't had anything like, as I said, moms have those stories because you guys are more like kids talk to you.
Speaker 2:What's your craziest story as a kid? What's your craziest story as a kid?
Speaker 3:What did you do? What did you do to your mother?
Speaker 1:Yeah, we start going down that little man, just one. It's nothing too crazy, though I don't think so. My mother found crazy the fact that I wouldn't you know call until like 1130 at night when I showed up and I'm 14. Like that's not crazy.
Speaker 3:I used to do that straight. Yeah, like that's why I used to walk in the house at 10 o'clock.
Speaker 1:I was a good kid man. My mother was just a pain in the ass. So my mother was a control freak, Like she wanted everything her way or no way.
Speaker 3:I had to train myself not to be that way. Yeah, I knew it was driving me crazy.
Speaker 1:Not her.
Speaker 3:Sorry, yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm talking about Johnny Oza's the story I figured, I just don't.
Speaker 3:You gotta think about it. You always the story.
Speaker 1:I am boring.
Speaker 3:I am boring. You're not boring. You're the most entertaining person. You're not boring.
Speaker 1:Wish it like that, yeah.
Speaker 3:You wasn't Damn what y'all think. He was such a good kid.
Speaker 1:He was a good guy.
Speaker 3:Whatever?
Speaker 1:Worst thing that ever happened to me is I got jumped and had mild brain damage.
Speaker 2:Other than that, man, I gotta thank you. Oh look, Thank you yeah.
Speaker 3:Oh, he said thank you.
Speaker 2:I have to thank him, oh shit.
Speaker 3:I didn't send my kid. See you read it incorrectly.
Speaker 1:No, you read it incorrectly. He didn't say mom, send me my money.
Speaker 2:He said mom send me my money, Johnny. Look at the freaking message.
Speaker 1:Is there an exclamation point?
Speaker 2:Mom give me my money.
Speaker 1:No, you're reading it different. I'm reading it like Like a Mom, give me my money.
Speaker 2:It's not his money.
Speaker 1:He asked for $10, right, you usually provide him with $10. At that point that's his money, because he knows yo mom will give me the 10 bucks, Give me my mom, Mom, give me my money.
Speaker 2:I'm literally. That's not how he said it. Stop, Jackie. How would you read that?
Speaker 3:Because I know him. Mom give me my money, you see.
Speaker 2:Hi, yeah, yeah, no too.
Speaker 3:As I'm giving my kids their allowance right now that I forgot about.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you guys do everything on record. I make sure everything's cash.
Speaker 2:I never have cash on me. I never have cash.
Speaker 1:I'm working to cash business so, like a lot of times, there's always cash.
Speaker 2:You just need it for the strippers.
Speaker 1:I ain't throwing on 20s in those strippers.
Speaker 2:This is everything, yeah, whatever you want to cut it.
Speaker 1:So you'll figure out where to, and that's why you need to sign up for the Patreon, because we don't know what's what. We don't know what the fuck we're doing.
Speaker 2:That's why we leave it to the expert.
Speaker 1:Expert. I think he's high After the day.
Speaker 2:No, Amir's a good one.
Speaker 1:I mean Amir, don't drink. That is one of the best things ever, man.
Speaker 2:Have you ever taken a gummy CBD? No, thc, thc.
Speaker 3:I just spoken to my sister.
Speaker 2:He's such a good one. Yeah.
Speaker 1:My sister used to smoke at a mom's place.
Speaker 2:I've done it like three times, but the one time I did it it was like a left-up part because I was going to go to sleep. My sister was like three row or one from the show that was right there.
Speaker 3:Wow, that's nice.
Speaker 1:Is your big sister? No, she's younger and she's taking care of you. Yeah, that's fine. My little sister was a shithole Right in your role, or?
Speaker 3:whatever. And you know what?
Speaker 2:And then after like three seconds, I'm like oh, I got to go to bed right now.
Speaker 3:That's my problem. I can't smoke. I want to immediately go to bed.
Speaker 1:That's typically when I do smoke, though I'm a smoke for bed person Like I don't very rare like Jasmine wakes up to that shit. I'm not a person that's going to.
Speaker 2:First of all, I don't smoke. I only have my pen and I only use it if I'm out drinking. Last week I was fucked up. That's why she's really sick.
Speaker 1:I was like it's like Wait, was that at the party with the dancer? Well, that was two weeks ago.
Speaker 2:No, I went on a date.
Speaker 1:Damn.
Speaker 2:Break those hearts.
Speaker 1:I needed it.
Speaker 2:They did not sound entertaining at all. I can't comment on that right now, please, please.
Speaker 3:That intro.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Bro, this guy's brain, bro. I thought about it before but I was like I don't even know right now. Yeah, so I'm going to do it. I just have to have that. Maybe do like 15 minutes. Oh, you do like a thing. And then I pop up again saying to watch the full episode, subscribe to Patreon. It's only $3 a month, aka 10 cents a day. How many times do I have to repeat it for?
Speaker 3:you to do it. That was perfect. He's so annoyed with them, he's like just fucking sign up bro.
Speaker 1:I don't see how you don't see three bucks, it's just three bucks. So I got something to say she sees the $3.
Speaker 3:I'm annoyed. I just I got a text message.
Speaker 1:Many cats on.
Speaker 3:I just got a text message from my children's father. Are you busy tomorrow in the morning? Okay, the month just started, so it's about the time that he needs to come and spend an hour with his children. I'm not responding.
Speaker 2:Well, you can say I am going to church.
Speaker 3:No, I'm going to tell him you're going to hell.
Speaker 1:No say. I know you're busy to be with the kids.
Speaker 3:I know that's not my problem.
Speaker 1:Yes, facts, which kids?
Speaker 3:My two middle ones, my ex-husband.
Speaker 1:And how do they feel?
Speaker 3:They don't have a fuck.
Speaker 1:Okay, they don't care yeah.
Speaker 3:Like they like. Ami feels like, um, yeah, whatever he doesn't give a shit, He'll like take a shower with his father's there.
Speaker 2:He'll like take extra long like exfoliate.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that shit comes back. They don't see it like look at my pops, my pops is dope, love my pops, amazing. Yo, my personality is from my dad, my dad's, mr Chipper, like.
Speaker 2:I saw your father's Instagram.
Speaker 1:He still thinks he's a star.
Speaker 2:He looks really cool.
Speaker 1:That's him. That's him and his wife. He's Edie's nade official and he is Johnny Contreras official.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I saw Johnny Contreras I was like oh, that's his pop. Yeah, no, he loves it.
Speaker 1:We spoken everything. He's like, man, you're so good at this. I was like, thanks bro, that's why my dad is great, awesome. But because, again, not only saw him about every two or three months and there were times where I felt ignored as a child because my attitude was like, all right, fuck it. But now that lingers, I'm about to be 40 and I'll see his call and sometimes I'm like, all right, I'll talk to him later. And yo, it leaves my mind Like it really does, until like two months later he's like hey, you know, I was calling you out of your voice. I'm like, yo, man, sorry man.
Speaker 2:Which is why I'm not that cool, because I miss my father.
Speaker 1:It didn't know, and that's the thing that my cousin lost his dad.
Speaker 3:Right, you have such a good relationship with your dad.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 3:Like you, had your dad there.
Speaker 1:That's why I was headed right now my story.
Speaker 3:I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:Nah, and, but that's the thing. Like my cousin lost his dad, right, but his dad was just like my dad, like out of the picture. But when he lost his father, like he took it hard, right, like obviously it's his pops, right. And his wife well, his then wife had asked me at one point because I was I was chilling with her. And the call came in and I was like and she's like, oh, that's your dad, right. I saw his face. I was like, yeah, I'll call him back later.
Speaker 1:And she's like you know what happened, you see how I'm not going to mention my cousin name, but you see how you know him going through this now and I'm like I'll be honest with you. I know that won't happen with me, and it's not because I don't love him, love him to death. Like I told you, yo, my personality is my dad. He's Mr. The sky is never falling, like everything will be okay. Hey, how you doing. He's like mad, excited, right. But I also know that the way that we operate together, the way I move with him and the way he moves with me, was created by him, right. So I don't, I won't have the damn.
Speaker 1:I should have picked up one more call Right, and I can't say no for sure. Like you don't know what's going to happen. Like my cousin said the same shit, right, but I know myself, right, and how I've handled I've lost people, right. So with that thing I'm kind of like, but I do. Now I'm, now that I'm turning 40, and probably for the last year or so I've been more conscious of it because I know he made those errors at a young age, right, like it may not be young to other people, but he had me at 26 and he was in the music biz, so he was chasing his dreams, not knowing yo. By chasing my dreams I'm also letting go of another, because it doesn't look that way. At that point you're kind of like I'm doing this or my kid is good, but that time factor fucking matters.
Speaker 1:Right, even just pick up a fucking phone, like we're here doing this, but we give our kids attention, no matter what Right, and you know this is a sacrifice. Like yes, the same, like cupcakes and waterfalls Like this is a sacrifice. We're taking time away from being with our kids. The drive is about an hour and a half, the time is about three hours. You lose about seven hours worth of time with your kid.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Right and you do it for them. So this ain't just jolly stuff, like we do have a good time, we have a great time. We wouldn't do it, but do take into account the work that's being done. So when people like look at our stuff and they probably feel like, oh, I could do that, not always, not everybody could do that.
Speaker 3:Not everybody's built for it, yeah.
Speaker 2:We were talking about that. It's crazy. Like on the walk here, like I got a comment like because I said I'm booked or February, and like March, where like halfway book, and I'm like, oh so you're not going to have a life now, this is my life. Like I'm still living my life. I'm doing something I enjoy, I'm seeing my friends. I don't feel like it's a burden. I mean you may think that because it may not be your thing, but it's my thing and I'm gonna do what I want my kids are taking care of. This is therapeutic for me. So listen, you make time for what's important and which I will Like. If there's something that's a major thing that I need to be at, of course I'm gonna be there. I'm not gonna miss it, but just to hang out and go somewhere that I've been so many times or do something that I always do Back away.
Speaker 1:Even being more conscious Now. I'm more conscious during the week, of when I'm with the girls. Like yo, I'm not gonna have Saturday for this much. So guess what? Let's do extra. Let's cut this off. I was gonna read this, I was gonna do that. Nah bang, go play this annoying ass game with my daughter that I hate, but she loves. Hate being a parent.
Speaker 2:No, you don't. You love it. That's your life.
Speaker 3:You're so good at it.
Speaker 1:That's what they say. It's all camera work, baby. I'm the worst dad ever. That's actually my hashtag. I'm gonna do merch with that.
Speaker 3:I'm the worst dad ever.
Speaker 1:No hashtag. Worst dad ever.
Speaker 2:Well, speaking of fathers, I feel like doing this podcast. Let's knock on wood, right, because my kid's father, he didn't like Juan, you're just knocking it.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna show this was wood, I don't know.
Speaker 2:He didn't like you know that comment I said on the first episode, where I'm just like I was my son's coach because his father wasn't around and he told me he's like, well, how am I supposed to be two places at once? And I'm like what do you mean? He's like I'm at work and how am I supposed to be there? I was like the same way I do, you make time, you leave early, you sacrifice, you know you do what you gotta do. And I said you know, maybe this will help you. You know, do what you gotta do. And I will talk shit about you pretty much Right. So we spoke. He says gonna take him every other weekend. Last weekend he did for one night, but I can't complain.
Speaker 1:So it's a start.
Speaker 3:Start with a small step, man. You know, at least there's some type of change, right? So like so with my, with their father, right, I feel like so. They decided not, they Devin decided I don't wanna go with my dad anymore. Yeah, he was starting to feel like the tension, and you know he's their father's, not the. He's a pessimist, right? So he feels the tension between him and, you know, whoever's around. So he's like, you know, I don't wanna go, I don't wanna go over there anymore and I'm not going to force them.
Speaker 3:So, okay, you don't wanna go over there I had to have a hard conversation with their dad. I said listen, because I'm gonna always advocate for my children, right? So I was like listen, you know, I'm gonna tell you this, I don't. I really don't want you to be upset about it. However, I know you're gonna be upset about it. This is what it is. He didn't give me no pushback. He was like okay, and I was like okay. So I said but you know, you're more than welcome, come, come every other weekend, pick them up, you know go eat, grab a pizza, get a haircut, something like that.
Speaker 3:Right, I think that lasted for like two seconds, and then he sees them every other month. You know he'll see them for a couple of hours. They see that. They see that.
Speaker 1:I'm telling you from experience. Right, I'm angry. He's gonna feel it in the future.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I'm angry, but I'm not gonna tell my kids that I'm angry, right, I'm not even gonna tell him that I'm angry. You know why? Because, at the end of the day, my kids are gonna understand who you are. They're going to know who you are because you showed them who you are right. So by you not being there now, he's still like he has one job. He doesn't have two jobs. He's a single man out in this world.
Speaker 1:I was gonna ask he got new kids, a girl, some shit.
Speaker 3:Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. That's wild. No, none of that, Any blockers, there are no blockers. So for me, right, it is a choice. It was your choice. It's your choice to stay away because you're fucking lazy.
Speaker 1:That's really at the end of the day what it is.
Speaker 3:So I gotta take the long I gotta railroad, and then always making an excuse Listen, I don't fucking care. I don't care because I'm gonna make it to my kids, no matter what it is.
Speaker 1:Not be like, yeah, how you get to work, you get to work, because if you get to work, I honestly don't know you can't get to your kids. You talk about the train.
Speaker 3:You get to work that way. You go for a run for five miles run to your kids. Like it's really just a choice and it was your choice. So if you don't like what I'm saying about you, that's your problem.
Speaker 1:Then change it up. But look, that's the importance of this show, right Cause now that brought light to baby daddy, he's kind of like damn, that's really how I'm seeing and I know at first it bothers everybody. Whenever you judge is gonna hit you, cause not everybody's just ready to.
Speaker 2:Especially your narcissist. No, and then you don't write because.
Speaker 1:Don't be judging him, but do be judging him.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm gonna say. The thing is is that I'm a narcissist.
Speaker 3:You're not a narcissist, I had this conversation with Ruma and I was like, I think I have narcissistic tendencies.
Speaker 2:No, you're not.
Speaker 1:Yo look it up?
Speaker 2:No, you can't. You are far from a narcissist. Oh, you love this I yes, I live with a narcissist for 12 years.
Speaker 3:So that is different. So they don't want to be seen in public that way. Yes, so now you're gonna start changing it up, because now I gotta change the narrative.
Speaker 2:Exactly. My baby mama's on here talking about me what I'm gonna be a father now. Let me go.
Speaker 1:She's on apparently hot takeaway her content.
Speaker 3:Parent Whoa, what a concept.
Speaker 1:Yo don't worry, man, I'm here for the guys that actually do stuff. Yeah, because we're not discounted. You don't shout out to that, no, yeah.
Speaker 3:Shout out to the men that are out there with their kids all the time. Yeah, you know making it. You know taking long drives you know, sacrifices and all of that. That is what the kids need and you know. Fuck you to.
Speaker 2:the rest, I don't do the shit that they gotta do, get it together.
Speaker 3:Report's too late yeah. But there are shitmoms too, and that is on another episode of Parents on Cut, we will talk about Debbie moms.
Speaker 1:Yes, Yo listen my mom is an attorney that works with ACS Right. My mom, my sister Heidi's. Like my mom, I love you. Oh that's my second mom, but yeah, Heidi, and the stories that I hear, I'm just like that's not real. Well, how could a mom there's no way a mom, because my person is my mom, right, Like everything is matter of fact. My faith and we were talking about how you get it from your parents and that's why I hope I get that from mommy.
Speaker 2:Well, I didn't get my faith from my parents.
Speaker 1:Like my mother, just don't talk about faith in life.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:My mother wasn't really like. My mother said like no, that stuff right. She was just more so like yeah, I can't be stopped, like shit, damn, my factory is getting closed down. I got to get these workers new jobs. I make sure everybody's good. Now I take care of myself, but I'll be good because I'm always good and that's always been that attitude. But in terms of in terms of that, like when I see my sister talk about certain cases, I'm just like yo. I can, because I can't believe a mom would do that, because my mom wouldn't. But we forget that's our world and the narrative that we always are told is kind of like dads are dead beats and more capable of it, but moms know Right.
Speaker 3:That's not true.
Speaker 1:No, I mean social media will show you what it wants.
Speaker 2:No you see all the stories, so many stories out there. That's terrible. I can't.
Speaker 3:I can't. Sometimes I have to like keep on scrolling and I know that like they trying to bring awareness and, you know, for people to understand that like this happens Right, and sometimes I just can't watch it because I can't. I just can't imagine. I can't imagine doing that to my children or how a mother can do that to their children.
Speaker 2:It's a lot of evil in this world. You know I'm a TikTok Junk addict. I'm a TikTok alcoholic and I saw the video of. Did you guys see the video of the man who drove on the Virginia Pier and in his car and drove off of it, committed suicide? No, it's terrible.
Speaker 1:It was on TikTok.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's on TikTok. Somebody was filming the sunrise. I guess they were at the beach and they see a car on the pier and it's just going, going and they're like he's not stopping. All of a sudden drove off into the freaking pier.
Speaker 1:No, I'm good man.
Speaker 2:It's because you know like and you think about like. It takes a lot of people to get to that point and then as parents, you know there's a lot of things that like postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety.
Speaker 1:You can't control it.
Speaker 2:That people are embarrassed to talk about. Yeah, so who knows what they were going through in that moment? Yeah, it may have been something different, but at the end of the day, the reason why I wanted to do this podcast was to bring awareness to those issues, as well as parents, and we're going to talk about that later episodes. But you know it's hard and sometimes you just feel like you want to put up a strong front all the time, so people would think you have a perfect life and, like I said before, you only post the happy moments, but then, after you post that, you still have to go back to your reality.
Speaker 1:Yeah, right, not just that, you kind of. As parents we're always trying our best to keep our kids life jolly Right and in doing that we submerge a lot Right and we get up and, like I do, I tell you guys before I get in my car. Sometimes I just cry like, oh man, I'm feeling at this, da, da, da da. But I can't show that to my kids.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I will talk. I've cried in front of my kids.
Speaker 1:You can't no, listen. I'm not stopping, I'm not saying I do.
Speaker 3:I want them to see and I don't want them to see that I'm struggling or struggling with emotion. But, like you know, I won't hide certain things from them, because I want them to know, like I'm human, I'm human too, you know I. You guys think I think I know it all and I do have feelings. And yes, guys, I have feelings. I'm sorry, I do.
Speaker 1:And you know, I don't cry often, but you know when I do it's that strong.
Speaker 3:Yeah, cause I, I feel like I always yes, that's what it is I've always had to be strong, because I've always. I feel like I've always had to do everything. I've always had to do everything, right, yeah, so I feel like strong is all. I know how to be. I don't know soft, I don't. I don't know soft and I try. I want to be in my soft era, right.
Speaker 2:That's why we got to go on this retreat. That's a kid, that's soft feminine.
Speaker 3:I want to let go Like I. I don't even. I'm even right now Like, I'm like this no, I don't have you know it'll happen.
Speaker 1:We're also at that, that point already, where we're fully aware of it, right, and that's the good thing about social media too, where it does bring awareness to a lot of that stuff that typically wouldn't be thing twice about. Or even if you had a feeling, you're kind of like I'm not talking about that shit and that's why we're on this podcast talking about that shit.
Speaker 3:Because we got to talk about that shit and we have to.
Speaker 1:really the inner work is first, with everything I'm talking about, of course, even the mindset to do this podcast. All right, like there's a lot of like inner work that goes on prior to even showing up in here. All right, cause you know, yeah, it's cool, we love each other's energy, we have a great time, it's therapeutic, like we have to kind of tune out whatever else is going on. If we got shit at work, shit at home, problems with significant others or whatever's happening and just show up. So that is adult life and we have to take care of ourselves better than anybody because we know better. Now it's not just enough to know better, we gotta do better.
Speaker 3:We need that self care.
Speaker 2:And just surround yourself with a good support team if you don't have one.
Speaker 1:You guys have one thank you.
Speaker 2:No, we're blessed for that, but some people don't. And then that's where podcasts come in, because they're like oh, at least somebody else. I can see somebody else is going through the same thing I'm going through.
Speaker 1:I'm here for you. Yes, whenever you need. Don't DM me, but I am here for you.
Speaker 2:Damn, you could DM us.
Speaker 1:For three bucks you could DM her. We already know and under your foolishness, dm with nice stuff Like hey, how you guys doing. Here's the topic for the show.
Speaker 2:No the comments are the nasty. They don't DM the nasty stuff the comments.
Speaker 1:Yo, what's up with people? They want to be seen. Baby Wallin.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1:Yo, but keep on flooding the TikTok baby. Yeah, you can't touch me, I'm untouchable. As long as I see the algorithm going up, I'm excited Go ahead.
Speaker 3:He doesn't care. If you think his head is big, that's it.
Speaker 2:We already know.
Speaker 1:We already know that he ain't telling me nothing. I don't know. My brother been on my back since I was born about my forehead Yo, you know what I mean Shit. Well, thank you guys. That's why you got stuck. No, he didn't say that. That's why he said I came out of mommy's ass. Ok, thank you guys for joining us this week. It's always a pleasure. Once again, we have this thing called Patreon. It's about $3 a month, which is roughly 10 cents a day 10 cents a day.
Speaker 2:You can't even buy anything for 10 cents a day anymore. Yo, Bazooka Joe is 15 cents right now.
Speaker 1:Oh what Bazooka Joe Remember the ones that had the little comic Jolly Rancher Can't even get one.
Speaker 3:Surprise is not a quarter.
Speaker 1:Actually it might be 35 cents, I missed when they were five cents. Yo.
Speaker 2:Anyway, yeah, 10 cents a day. So you have no excuses If you love our content and you want to keep seeing more subscribe to our. Patreon Exclusive. You're not going to find nothing else. What are you going to find for?
Speaker 1:$3?. A good time in Colombia.
Speaker 3:But how much you got to spend to go.
Speaker 1:Sorry.
Speaker 3:Seriously.
Speaker 1:That was out of line.
Speaker 2:Goodbye.